Sometimes you can feel forced into a corner, that you have to do certain things or behave a certain way. And sometimes this pressure comes from the people around you, even those you call your friends!
Am I normal?
Sometimes we can also feel worried about being different from other people – especially if we feel we’re different from our friends – this can make us feel isolated and alone. But it’s important to remember we’re all different: different shapes and sizes, we like different things and we all enjoy relationships in different ways – and that’s ok! You might want to check out the puberty for girls and puberty for boys pages, or the about relationships page for more information. Its up to you to make decisions that feel right for you – even if others are choosing differently.
Worried about something?
Exams, friends, our bodies, relationships… can all make us feel worried or stressed out. And even if on the outside it looks like everything is ok, we can be feeling really bad inside. If that’s how you’re feeling, talking to someone can really help. If you don’t know who to talk to, call Childline 0800 1111. They will listen to you in confidence – they are there to help.
Under pressure to have sex?
No matter what anyone says, having sex for the first time (or for the first time with someone new) is a big decision and you need to think about it carefully. Nobody has the right to pressure you into sex. Pressure like this can be upsetting, and it can be scary. You always have the right to say no, or to stop if your change your mind.
When things don’t go to plan
Its up to you to make decisions that feel right for you – even if others are choosing differently.
If sex leaves you feeling unhappy, stressed, worried, or confused – talk to someone you can trust who will listen to you and respect how you feel. If you’ve had unprotected sex (oral sex, anal sex and vaginal sex) you might be at risk from an infection, and pregnancy if you’re a girl and you’ve had unprotected vaginal sex. Visit a Healthy Respect drop-in, GUM, Family Planning or Caledonia Youth. They can offer you help and advice. If you want to prevent being pregnant after you have had unprotected sex, it’s really important to get advice about Emergency Contraception as soon as possible. It can help prevent a pregnancy for up to 72 hours (3 days) after sex.
Forced to do sexual things?
If you feel you were pressurised or forced to have any kind of sex, its important to talk to someone as soon as possible. Call Childline 0800 1111 or Edinburgh Woman’s Rape and Sexual Abuse Centre (0131 556 9347 or www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk). See more about sexual abuse.
Who can help?
If someone is putting you under pressure about sex, or if sex with someone leaves you feeling unhappy or confused, it might help to talk about your worries with someone you trust. You can visit any of the places listed in the address book or call a free helpline. They can give you confidential help and advice.
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